Welcome to 2020!
Is it just for hindsight? I don’t think so. This is going to be the start of a new era of growth and happiness.
The Rio Grande Gorge New Mexico is the “Land of Enchantment” and as I prepared for the solo drive I wondered if there would be hidden triggers. There were and a few were difficult but for the most part, the trip did exactly what I hoped it would do…overwrite the past memories of fear and […]
So often people want to label us as something that may or may not apply. Far too many of us that have suffered at the hands of our abusers fall into what has the unfortunate label of “victim mentality.” Some of us fight so hard against that label that we become militant survivors. Some slip […]
“Time, time, timeSee what’s become of meWhile I looked aroundFor my possibilitiesI was so hard to please” Songwriter: Paul SimonA Hazy Shade of Winter lyrics © Universal Music Publishing Group What does the passage of time mean as a survivor? One minute you’re sitting with friends and family have a great time and then, out […]
I have never been a fan of Mr. Rogers but he shared something important back in 1986 or so. He would tell the story of how his mother helped him feel safe growing up. “Always look for the helpers,” she’d tell me. “There’s always someone who is trying to help.” It wasn’t until I had […]
A transformative night for me and I suspect for many of the attendees as well. There’s so much to share about this event. I’ll begin with some images. They do not do justice the energy that crackled throughout the park itself. I had hoped to have a high-quality video of my speaking but that didn’t […]
It’s not that I did anything “wrong” but learning to stop the old tapes of being told I was worthless (“you’re fat, ugly, and stupid”) takes time. I had to learn to forgive myself for not always being present as a mother, a friend, a teacher, or as a Priestess. I had to learn to […]
According to Merriam-Webster, evil is defined as follows: evil adjective\ ˈē-vəl, British often and the US sometimes ˈē-(ˌ)vil\eviler or eviller; evilest or evillestDefinition of evil (Entry 1 of 3) 1a: morally reprehensible: SINFUL, WICKEDan evil impulse b: arising from actual or imputed bad character or conducta person of evil reputation 2a archaic: INFERIOR b: […]
In this space, I will share articles that I have found hopeful, infuriating, interesting, and other adjectives. You Can Get PTSD From Staying In An Emotionally Damaging Relationship – Stop pretending you understand why she stays or why she cannot force herself to leave even if she says she wants to. Stop shaming the people […]
Every story needs some background. A place to put things into context. To accomplish this, I’m relying on posts from a failed blog attempt some years ago. Bear with me as I try to put some of the mosaics of my life in order to help make the forward movement make sense: It didn’t start […]
One of the classic traits of an abuser is how they isolate their victim from support networks. When I lived in a van and traveled all over the country my “support” was only localized for a few days at a time in each location and most of the time I was incapable of recognizing the […]